My father is an 81 yr old alcoholic who won't allow others, family, nurses, friends...to care for him. When not drinking he is sound and personable. However, he sits in his garage day and night drinking. As it stands he has bad legs (neuropathy) and falls frequently. My family and I live with him but he refuses to eat, bathe and sleep in the house some nights. I cannot (physically or mentally) stay up day and night trying to get him in the house. He has bed sores from sitting in his own urine, which doesn't seem to bother him. I have had numerous nurses come and go, they quit bc they get frustrated that he won't allow care. Not only do I want him to be healthy, I am worried I could be held responsible for elder abuse despite years of trying to get him help.