I've been in a relationship 17 years I end up having a babe with another man.... So now the father of the child trying to destroy my life n always threaten by relationship... He do so much out of angry so far as he say if can't have me no one will or he say his gonna do everything to have me lose the child. I love my child she well taken care of...p
If a parent is seeking to obtain custody of the child they will need to prove why their relief for custody should be granted over the parties relief for custody. When determining what custody arrangement is in the child's best interest, the court considers the following factors:
Primary Care Giver - Who is the person who takes care of the child? Who feeds the child, shops for their clothes, gets them up for school, bathes them, and arranges day care? Who does the child turn to when they get hurt?
• Fitness - What are the psychological and physical capacities of the parties seeking custody? The court may also consider evidence of abuse by a party against the other parent, the party's spouse, or any child residing within the party's household (including another child).
• Character and Reputation
• Agreements - Is there a custody agreement already in place?
• Ability to Maintain Family Relationships - Who will be best able to help the child keep family relationships? Who is going to let the child speak with their ex-mother-in-law, for example? Who will not penalize the child for any bad action on the part of the other parent?
• Child Preference - The decision of the court may be reversed on appeal if the judge will not hear the child's preference. However, the judge may choose to interview the child outside the presence of the parents. A child as young as 5 or 6 years of age may be heard. Though it is rare, the court will hear from a child under 7 years. The child's maturity, and whether the child can tell the truth from fiction will guide the decision whether a child may be heard. A child of at least 10 or 12 years of age is certainly entitled to have their opinions heard and given weight in legal proceedings about custody. Additionally, the court has the power to appoint an attorney for the child in contested cases.
• Material Opportunity - Which parent has the financial resources to give the child more things?
• Age, Health and Gender of Child
• Residences of Parents and Opportunity for Visitation - How close do the parents live to each other? How close do they live to members of the child's extended family? Which parent lives closest to the child's school and social circle?
• Length of Separation- how long has the parent been separated from the child?
• Any Prior Abandonment or Surrender of Custody - Is there a history of one parent walking out and leaving the other parent to cope with the child and the home? Which parent left when you last broke up?
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Well, he is the father's child, so he can file a custody case and the Court will determine what custody schedule is in the child's best interest. Other than that, I don't think there are enough facts to advise you properly and you should probably consult an attorney.
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It sounds like there is no existing custody order. If this person is making those types of threats you probably want to file a complaint for custody in court to establish that you are the primary custodian.
You may or may not be hesitant to do this because you're worried that the person who you are in a relationship now I will find out but it seems that your ex is threatening to disclose this anyway so you really have no choice.
The value of a court order is that it establishes the rules of who has the child when and therefore he cannot make empty threats to take the child.
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