This is not a good question for Avvo.com This is is more like a consultation with the internet. You really might want to get a sit-down appointment with an attorney, since they'd likely have lots of questions for you, in return.
But to answer the question in your title: Treat social workers with respect, keep your appointments with them, answer their questions, do not be evasive, but at the same time do not assume that they are your friends. They have a lot of potential power, including the power to take your children away if they feel it's justified, so do NOT get on their bad side if you can avoid it.
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