Dear Bayshore Home Owner:
You have now asked this question three times. The answers will not change. You are experiencing this strange court experience because you have not engaged an attorney to plead your claim for access to the house. The house is in the exclusive possession of your sibling, who resides in the house. Even though you are a co-owner, he has not allowed you to enter the house. You describe his potential for violent behavior in a comment you placed to my answer three days ago.
You cannot substitute Internet answers for having your own attorney. You have lost three possible sales where a broker found a purchaser because your brother backed out of each contract, you may owe these brokers, because each did the job of finding a purchaser. You dropped your selling price each time.
Please. Hire an attorney.
The answer provided to you is in the nature of general information. The general proposition being that you should try to avoid a bad outcome if you can.
Your question's a bit confusing. In part of the question you imply the home was the only thing left in a parent's estate left to the two children equally, and then you talk about "assets". Are the "assets" personal property left in the home like furniture, jewelry, fixtures, mementos, etc.?
You're on the right track seeking a partition action to sell the home and dispossess the sibling in possession and divide the proceeds. If the "assets" are also at issue, they have to be divided equally (roughly) and or sold and the proceeds divided equally. Your rights won't be waived by not going over and violently demanding your share; the law prefers a peaceful solution.
I'd write a letter to the sibling in possession (or have the lawyer write it) demanding that no personal property be removed or sold and any property that has been needs to be accounted for. There may also be, depending on the size of the estate, whether there was a will, and the manner in which the estate went through probate or administration, some accounting for these "assets" that has to be done in Surrogates Court to do a final accounting and close the estate.
I'd consult an estate lawyer, have him write the demand letter and advise you on how this estate should be administered or probated so you get your rightful share.
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