What to do about our child when leaving my abusing boyfriend?
First one, I'll tell him I'm leaving and he'll have no problem with that as long as I don't take our child with me. Second one, we'll get into an argument and he'll force me out of the house, without our child of course. (He owns a home, my name is not on it).
I want to leave him but I don't want to leave our child behind, and I guarantee you he won't let me take her with me. Same story with getting kicked out, he'll kick me out of his house but not her.
I contacted a local DV agency; their advice was to file a Parenting Plan with my local Court even if I'm still with him, so that there is something in place when I leave him. But I doubt he would want to sign any papers or even hear about it if we are still together.
I'm afraid to take her with me without telling him as he may accuse me of child kidnapping. On the other hand, if I leave her behind, he may accuse me of child abandonment.
I'm very open to have shared custody of her and want to do what is right.
Please advise on how to proceed.
1 attorney answer
I am sorry for your situation. You definitely should try to secure an attorney. An attorney can better explain your options after you have had a consultation with them and explained all of the specific facts of your case.
An attorney will ask you, during your consultation, about the specific abuse, for example; and will help you clarify your goals. And that will help you with next steps. Good luck!
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