She is 85, lives alone in the country. She hires a helper 12 hours a week to take her on errands and doctor apppointments but fires them almost weekly. Her short term memory is no longer functional, she has difficulty getting around and has many medical problems. Her pharmacy prepares her medicines in a weekly box but she has difficulty remembering to take them sometimes because she is unsure of the day. As her daughter, living 1000 miles away, I pay her bills and check references on the people she considers hiring. These are the limits of the help she will accept. She has a power of attorney if she is unable to make decisions for herself and I am the one named to make those decisions since my father's death.