This parent needs to follow up with with both schools in writing. Ask district #1 to either acknowledge the meeting or admit (since they received an e-mail request for eval) that they have violated child-find by not conducting the eval within 60 days (the Federal timeline - Az may have tighter requirements).
Also renew the request for an eval with school #2 and ask for notes, classroom video or anything that might describe what events occurred before the incidents for which the child was suspended. Below is a link to a guide I authored, about the importance of written follow-up.
If the school still refuses to act, contact an education lawyer in your area, at once.
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I fully agree that in a situation such as this that both school districts should be contacted immediately and that the contact should be in writing. A parent in this situation can also request that the school district provide all student records for their child, and the District must comply. Parents in this situation should be sure that they make polite yet forceful written communications with the District. If the parent does not receive a satisfactory response or if they fell the discrimination continues, they should contact an education lawyer in their area.
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I agree with the answers from the other attorneys about putting your request in writing and getting documentation. In your questions though, you wrote 504/IEP and I wanted to make sure that you understood that these are pretty different types of plans. IEP plans are generally much more detailed and I would generally recommend them over a 504 plan.
I would suggest that you find a local education attorney or advocate to help you with this process.
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