I met and married my husband in 2006. At the time, he had two children ages 2 and 3. He claims their biological mother, whom he was not married to, abandoned them when they were 10 and 18 months old. I have wanted to adopt the kids from the beginning and he agreed. Unfortunately, my finances kept me from doing this until January of this year.
The problem is my husband has been having multiple affairs since we have been married and I have recently found evidence that supports this, including catching him in a parked car with a woman and she admitting to it. Of course, he denies everything.
During the initial meeting with the lawyer, he mentioned that if we were to divorce and I had custody of the children, I could sue him for child support. I could see my husband's expression and demeanor change. When we left the office, he said that he would no longer agree to the adoption because he knows that once it's final, I will "put him out and then sue for child support". He also said that he refused to be forced by the government to pay, but would do so on his own. He would even leave the country and return to Kenya to avoid doing so.
I have loved and supported our children since they were very young. As a matter of fact, I was the only mother they knew until 24 hours ago. I sat the children down yesterday and explained to them in a way they could understand what was going on.(My husband has threatened to tell them today and I know that he is not going to in a way that is civil. He has sent for pictures from his sister of their biological mother to show I am not their mom.) He has threatened to take the children out of the state and I would not see them again.
Do I have any legal rights to see my children after I divorce my husband on the grounds of infidelity? He has not been a good father to them. He does not spend time with them nor does he take care of them financially. I pay for rent, food, clothing, medical expenses, school supplies, extra-curricular activities, birthday/Christmas presents and whatever else they need or want. He even refused to give me money to pay for our son's dental work, but has sent his sister money for his nephews school fees in Kenya.
I don't believe he truly loves the kids because he has absolutely nothing to do with them on a daily basis. I have to beg him to take our son with him even if he's just going to the store.
I hope you can help us (myself and the kids) stay together. It is unfair for him to do what he is doing.
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