He's misinformed. The 12 year old gets to express an opinion in certain circumstances but does not get to choose.
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Kids don't get to choose and switch. They are with you until a court orders otherwise. The court may hear the kids opinion if it so chooses. Start looking around for a lawyer you might want to use should he try something and do NOT let him bully you with misinformation.
Kids have a say, but do not get to decide where they live. Get a lawyer today - do not wait for him to file a modification. The lawyer can help you with a plan in advance to help your case. You will be ready for court - and he will not.
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