My ex has my children Thurs -sun. Thurs I received a text from him saying my 2 yr old had a head injury and he was taking him to the hospital. I called and he refused to tell me which hospital my son was at. He finally told me 2 hrs later and when I got there, they were discharged. The receptionist wouldn't give me any information since I hadn't admitted my son. I called the police to do a welfare check on my son since I wouldn't be allowed to see him until Sunday night. The officer said he had 5 stitches on his head but was sleeping. My ex just got 50% custody last month. 2 weeks ago my 2 yr old and 4 yr old were sick so he texted that his girlfriend would be keeping them but refused to give me her name, a contact number or the address where they'd be. He finally texted me hours later saying that "her" cell was his cell and her address was his address. A week before that he made a dentist appointment for both my boys, only telling me about it afterwards, when he told me the half I had to pay. We have joint legal decision making, with me having the final say so if we can't agree and yet he's completely running his own agenda with the children behind my back and against my consent.
Though I understand your frustration, I'm not sure any of this rises to an actionable level. He needs to provide contact information for any caretaker he uses, whether it's a personal acquaintance or a professional. But unfortunately I'm not sure there's any legal remedy available - yet. So, I know this isn't what you wanted to hear, but keep documenting. If you make efforts to discuss these issues with him, please approach it carefully. Otherwise it may look like you are overbearing and/or harassing him.
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I agree with attorney Hall that these actions would not likely be considered an emergency by the court. However, you may want to file a petition to enforce the provisions of the current order with which the father is not complying. In my experience, it is better to address an issue of failure to communicate and withholding information earlier as opposed to waiting.
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