I don't see anything in your narrative about money for sex acts. I see risky, infidelity exploration and possible consummation. If your partner is soliciting Weinergrams, there are serious maturity and adjustment problems. Why would you want to gather evidence? This isn't the 1950's. If you want a divorce, you can get one. If you're trying to make a go of your marriage, get Wiener-solitcitor to individual and marriage counseling and see if it can be rescued. Clarity is your friend here. You know what you know.
On the other hand, if you really want that "gotcha" moment, hire a truly bottom-feeding private investigator and get photos and vids. Seems like a waste in 2014. I'm sorry for you but you need to adjust your game plan. If you're gonna be a bear, be a Grizzly.
Colorado divorce law is no fault -- you don't need to prove adultery or even flirting.
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