There is no magic age when children get to decide where to live. The best interest of the child is the standard.
The law regarding a child's 'right'* to choose is a matter for each State and jurisdiction. The judge in most States, not the child, makes the decision based on the best interest of the child. Although not a standard by any means, many States have begun to give 'consideration' to a child's declaration of custodial preference when the child reaches the age of twelve or thirteen, sometimes fourteen. There are even cases when children of age 9 are allowed to testify.
The judge is normally given almost unlimited latitude in whether or not she or he listens to a child and how much weight to give to the child's wishes. In short, there is no specific "age" but the younger the child the less likely for a judge to give the stated preference much weight.
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In Ohio, there is no age the child gets to decide. One of the factors the judge gets to consider is the child's preference. This is typically done by the judge talking to the child alone in the judge's office.
If you go back to court and get shared parenting, that will not automatically change anything regarding your child support. If you need to modify your child support due to job loss, you need to talk to the CSEA worker on your case to do an administrative review of your support order. With your job loss, it is likley that your child support order would be reduced but that is not always a guarantee as you need to look at what the old support order entailed.
Your best option would be to discuss the matter with an attorney who can look over your current court order and child support guidelines and determine how the changes over time have affected you position and where changes would be most likely.
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