It seems like you have a couple different issues here: (1) whether or not there is any custody order in place, and (2) the harassment and threats to you in front of your child.
In regard to the custody issue, you can visit your local courthouse and see if there is any open case between you and the child's mother. If there is, you can pull the file and see if there is any order. However, a court does not have the authority to hear a case unless you have been notified (served). So if you have been away for a while and were not served with anything, then I doubt she could have obtained any custody order.
The continued harassment and threats is a completely different issue. If you have been a victim of domestic violence, you may want to consider obtaining a domestic violence restraining order. A restraining order is a court order issued to prevent the recurrence of acts of such abuse.
I would recommend contacting a local family law attorney to discuss your options.
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See a lawyer as soon as possible.
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You should consult an attorney right away. Allowing this to continue could seriously affect your parental rights. For further information, visit http://www.ellifritzlaw.com
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