North Carolina does not recognize an age when the child gets to control custody and visitation. This is always a matter for the court to decide. However, a child can state a preference about living with a parent or visiting with a parent. If the child is of suitable age and discretion, the court may give a lot of weight to what the child says on this issue. But the decision is always left to the court. I would be concerned about why the child does not want to visit. Maybe have a child psychologist or counselor meet with the child to see why this is occurring. Most chldren want to visit their non-custodial parent unless something is happening during those visits to upset the child. Check it out.
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