In order to be relieved of obligations, you must obtain a court release, which probably would require you to file an accounting for the time you served. It will be difficult to represent yourself on this because it is very technical. You should obtain new counsel if you have issues with your current lawyer.
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It is not uncommon to start a probate and then find out it is insolvent. PRs often resign in such circumstances. There are hoops you have to jump through to do it though because the courts want to know how it was left, for example where are the assets, what has happended to them and an accounting. I am surprised that your attorney does not agree to help you resign. You cannot force someone to be a PR but once you have been appointed, you cannot just walk away without making sure you tell the court what the status is and get a court order that discharges you.
I wonder if it is because your present attorney does not think he will be paid unless the property is sold. if there is any equity in it after sale, they become a preferred creditor with a priority to get paid before general creditors usually.
At a minimum, you need a second opinion from counsel to see what the best course to take is since your present attorney is not going to cooperate with you. Resigning as PR will reuire legal assitance. I know that is not what you want to hear but I can't see an alternative. Is somoen willing to take over thr role?
Maybe if you tell your present attorney you need a letter explaining why you should finish an insolvent probate so you can address it with another attorney (second opinion), they will become more accomodating to your desires. Maybe have the new attorney help with the language.
We really aren't supposed to answer questions for someone who is already represented.
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