You are right to get a second and third or more opinion regarding these very serious charges. However, you can't compare these basic answers to questions, without reviewing all the facts. You should have consultations in person for your situation. You can find very good criminal attorneys here on AVVO.
Please be advised my answers to questions does not constitute legal advise and you should not rely on it, due to the fact that we have never met, I have not been aprised of the facts in you case nor have I reviewed any documents.
On a 3rd degree or under first offense (no priors of any kind) there is apresumption on non incarceration regarding the sentence. There still can county jail as a condition of probation. But any jail is very unlikely on a first offense.