Get your husband an attorney. Your merely not wanting to prosecute isn't going to end the case.
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Get a lawyer. The state is going to want to prosecute after so many calls. In the bigger picture, stop fighting and calling the police. Any resolution with the court is going to require counseling, so it is probably a good idea to get started on that.
Your husband and you may also need different lawyers. In situations like this the state can subpoena you and force you to testify against your husband. There isn't a husband and wife confidentiality when if comes to family violence against the spouse or another person in the household.
Depending on the severity of the incident or incidents, an can probably work to get the charges dismissed. The state is hesitant to drop charges against a spouse, but if you insist that you will not testify, they probably will go along with your wishes. Talk to a lawyer to discuss in detail.
In many cases where a warrant has been issued that would mean that a temporary restraining order has been issued and the arrest warrant is to locate him so that he can be served with the order.
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Speak tot he Court and see if a TRO or a criminal charge or both have been files. The TRO cannot be heard until he is served but there may be court dates. Speak to the prosecutor and see if they will drop.