My ex and I finally had our final divorce order last week. Based on my request, he was give 50% custody, every other week. The judge imputes his income and he was ordered to pay $110/month.
The same evening, he sent me an email on Talking Parents that he can’t have physical custody of the kids and he needs to travel overseas for a few months.
We have 3 kids, 2 of which have severe autism. The physical and financial toll of taking care full time of them, while working 35h per week, is breaking me. What can I do? We’ve been going to court for more than five years until we had this final judgement, I can’t bare the thought of going to court again.
Nothing happens without either an agreement or a court order. If your ex-husband is not exercising any parenting time, you should go the DCSS in your area and have them ask to modify your child support based on the fact that he is no longer exercising any parenting time.
I agree that you should go to Department of Child Support services and ask for a modification of your support to guideline, based on the actual custodial time share. Good luck!
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DCSS is a great option. They do the work for you for $25 per year. They don’t go by the court order if he isn’t following it- they go by actual time. Not only should you receive an increase in support, they will issue the wage assignment, collect the money and send you a check. Hopefully he is a W-2 employee. You should also look into the cost of child care to care for the children while you work, if that is needed, and request he pay 1/2 the cost (although I suspect you may already receive that help). Good luck!
The attorneys above are correct, your best option is to go to DCSS and have them obtain a modified support order. You should also discuss add-on support for childcare while you work and any other special needs costs, whether educational, behavioral counseling, your children may need because of their diagnosis.
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