I suggest you contact an attorney in the jurisdiction where the court appearance is to be held to find out the local procedure, and possibly to appear on your behalf to inform the court that you were not properly served. Proper service is important, but sometimes litigants lie to the court and produce false Affidavits claiming service was proper. A local attorney can give you specific, confidential advice. Good luck!
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