You need to report this to your insurance company in any case in order to keep coverage for future events.
The other driver seems to be engaging in extortionate behavior if what you say is true. He may have committed a crime. Even thought the police probably will not take jurisdiction over the crash itself because it seems to have happened on private property.
Your daughter may be facing some sort of DMV consequences if she violated a rule. It is very unlikely she has committed a crime.
They could file a report, regardless of whether or not you pay them. Nothing could stop them.
This matter should be turned over to your automobile liability insurance carrier. Advise them that your daughter had your permission to drive the vehicle, assuming this is the truth. Your insurance company has an obligation to deal with this matter and defend and indemnify your daughter. You should not have to deal with the adverse party directly.
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If your daughter has coverage you must report the accident to your carrier. If not, you could settle out of pocket with the other driver, but have him get several estimates.
Don't let his threaten you with a police report. The rights of the parties are the same whether or not a report is filed.
If your daughter was driving without a license she would be in violation VC 12500 and could be charged with an infraction or Misdemeanor. Her privileges could be revoked for sometime. I'm not aware of any law that allows you to control the place of repair or to demand more than one estimate. Your daughter and you are responsible per VC 17151 for the property damages, and you have to pay the reasonable costs of repair. You should turn it over to your insurance company unless your daughter is an excluded driver, which she might be. If no insurance you should make a deal and settle the matter. While attorneys are not allowed to threaten administrative or criminal action, I do not think a private party is guilty of extortion for trying to get you to pay the amount due.
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