Avoiding service is a dangerous game, especially if once you are served (which usually eventually happens) you end up in front of a judge like that and the petitioner has the process server (sheriff or otherwise) testify about the difficulties of serving you. Judges don't usually like that. Going in front of a judge without an attorney, especially in a domestic violence hearing, is never a good idea. It may be that the judge is rude with or without attorneys, but I think that having an attorney representing you is likely to keep things more in line. The facts are the facts. Preparation in cases like that is imperative.
Even if you avoid service, the judge may still issue a permanent injunction. Best to hire and have a lawyer represent you at the injunction hearing in order to present your side. The judge will have an overall picture of the situation and be in a better position to make a decision with regards to the issuance of an injunction. After hearing testimony from both sides, the judge may even issue an injunction against him!