You are very young. Understand that texting him about YOUR feelings will not magically make the situation better. Clearly, you don't like it when they insult you, right? Here's the deal, focus on taking care of your child. First, you need to go and consult an attorney about obtaining support from the child's father. Yes, they will be mad, but don't wait for them to take action. You are the child's mother and you have to advocate for your daughter's needs. If he or his mother really wanted the baby in their life, they would have taken action to be actively involved, rather than threatening you. Understand that supporting a child he fathered is his obligation, and your child is entitled to support from her biological father. In the meantime, document all instances of insults and threats. DON'T INSTIGATE. If they text you, save it. Do not contact them because nothing good will come of it other than your being insulted. In addition, you do not want to give them any ammunition to use against you if they decide to fight you in court for custody. Maintain an impeccable reputation and make sure your daughter's needs are met. Do not do this alone, because you will need the help of an experienced attorney. Furthermore, if you cannot pay one, investigate whether you have a local legal aid office to help you since expenses may be an issue. But certainly get child support. Good luck.
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You should go to the child support office and begin the process to obtain child support. If you like you can file for custody but there is no requirement to do so until child support determines that he is the father. After that you should file for custody. The court will likely grant joint custody with you named primary custodian parent with the father given weekend visitation every other weekend. The law can not do anything about his parents attitudes or actions towards you. As grandparents, they can visit the child on their son's weekends and such other times as you would allow.
Every situation is different and you should consult your own attorney to go over all the particular facts in your case. The answer given is only intended to provide general guidance regarding rights and responsibilities.
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