Any time you are dealing with a potentially criminal investigation, your first step should be to consult with an experienced local criminal defense attorney. I would not post anything further about this issue online and would recommend consulting with the attorney of your choosing. You should be able to use the "find a lawyer" tab here on Avvo to locate an appropriate attorney. I'm sure you already recognize the potential harm that could come from an abuse allegation so you should be prepared to pay a good lawyer to protect your rights.
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Could be abuse but isn't automatically abuse. You should consult an elder law attorney and/or criminal attorney because abuse investigation can lead to criminal charges.
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