I’m 20 now and I’ve felt really bad not having his ashes around. As a minor My stepmom never gave me them and now that I’m older I feel like I’m more responsible to have them. She’s promised to give us his ashes in lockets but has failed to do so. I’m his oldest daughter
Do another post and include details as to what your father’s instructions were for the disposition of his ashes. Alternatively go see an estate attorney.
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As far as promises go, I don’t think that one is enforceable. People behave badly after the death of a loved one. There’s often situations where there is just no remedy.
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It sounds like she's never refused to do this, and depending on when her promise was made, she still has the ashes, so this could still happen.
Have you tried asking her formally, in writing? This is presumably an unpleasant topic that's easy to forget conversation about and makes her reluctant to act.
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