In almost every custody dispute (absent a domestic abuse situation), the court will refer you to mediation. At mediation you can literally come to an agreement with anything the parties will stipulate to as included in the agreement. While it is hard to have every situation addressed in a stipulation (that you both will advance be incorporated into a court order), you can place telephonic visitation terms in such, use of child restraints during transit and exchanges, as well as no usage of any chemicals during periods of placement. Good luck and know I am happy to meet with you for a free consultation if you desire.
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