Filed divorce in Feb 2015. 4 yr marriage. He was physically and verbally abusive, surgery required but found not guilty by jury. Share 1 child, conciliation used, final report in my favor. He refuses to agree on most everything including childcare. I work, but have had a reduction in hrs to 12/week. If I'm not available for my daughter after school, he uses a sitter who has had her own child taken by dfs due to neglect and dangerous situations in the home which hinders me in getting better employment. We lived in a home I own alone, he asked for half equity, but it decreased more during our marriage than mortgage payments made. Had to file extension on 2015 taxes due to no response from him. I'm fed up with being forced to lived with next-to-nothing income when I'm capable of making a decent living.
The fastest way to resolve this may be a trial. Kind of expensive but then it doesn't matter if he agrees.
Assuming you are represented by an attorney, the first thing to do would be to contact the attorney and ask this question. When doing so you should ask if the case is set for trial, and if not why not. In Kansas a divorce can be finalized within 60 days after the Petition is filed, and sooner if there is an emergency. This does not sound like an emergency, and 60 days to finalize is somewhat rare. However, even if the matter is contested and children are involved the parties should be able to identify the issues, complete mediation and discovery, and get the matter tried well within one year. There are exceptions, but those do not appear to be at issue in your question.
Trials can be expensive, and no matter the facts no one can guarantee what a judge will ultimately rule. But from your question it appears that your husband is set on being difficult and not settling. If you have made every effort to the resolve the case and he will not be reasonable, then a trial may be your only alternative. There are provisions in the domestic law in Kansas for the court to order one party to pay another's attorney's fees. Those orders are not common, but they do happen when one party is being unnecessarily difficult.
Again, the best option would be to speak to your current attorney. If you keep getting delays, or no answers, then maybe it would be best to find another attorney. That could be expensive, and may take some time to get the new attorney familiar with the case, but it would be better than just sitting and waiting.
If you are representing yourself, you might try asking the court for a status conference to review the case and determine how to proceed. If the court knows the case is not going to settle, and you have been to mediation to try and resolve the case, then usually the court will set a trial date. From what you have written though, it might be best to have an attorney help you with the case because this area of the law can be complicated, and it appears that your husband will be difficult to deal with at trial.
The above is merely a legal opinion, and the person asking the question should contact an attorney to fully develop the facts of the case to make certain any legal action you take is right for your situation. The above opinion is not meant to establish an attorney-client relationship, and no inference of such a relationship should be made in that regard. No action will be taken on your behalf to forward your case, and you should be aware that time may be of the essence regarding your case.
If conciliation is complete, it is generally time to set the case for trial. Ask your lawyer about the delays. If you don't have a lawyer, that is probably the reason for the case taking so long. You are identifying issues that, to me, indicate you should not be trying to do this by your self.
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