Sure sounds like classic defamation. You do have legal rights. The hard part in these issues is whether or not threatening her or having information removed from the Internet will simply provoker further. You're correct to focus in on the criminal aspects. However, law-enforcement really gets involved in these matters. This one sounds pretty serious and you should speak with all fight attorney to better understand your situation and rights.
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Sounds like you need to find a lawyer who specializes in prosecuting defamation cases. It also sounds like you have a viable claim against this individual for defamation. In order to sue her, you will need to know where she lives, so you can get her served with a summons and complaint. Whether you can ultimaltely collect any future judgment against her depends on whether she has any assets. Getting her arrested or getting an injunction against her to stop her from postin will be difficult because of First Amendment issues.
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