Have you considered moving to hold her in contempt or moving for a reduction in child support payments? Perhaps both at the same time. It sounds to me like you need to ramp up the pressure and push the court to act in your favor. Judges often favor mediation and compromise but sometimes you just have to push and push and push until they act. Eventually they will if you know how to push their buttons in a nice way, of course. Give me a call and I will share some ideas.
Modifying the tax dependency portion is relatively easy in Sheboygan County. If ex is interfering with your placement that can be addressed at the same time as the modification of the tax exemption. My office is directly across the street from the Sheboygan Count Courthouse. You can call my office at 920-459-8490 to set up a free appointment to discuss the issues.
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You should file a petition to enforce placement. The court will schedule it to be heard within thirty days. You can request a finding of contempt and an injunction against your ex to prevent further violations . If you would like to learn further about this petition, I can be contacted at (414)225-0225.
The proper procedure is to file a motion for contempt or a motion to enforce the judgment. There are consequences to "going to court" such as, in your case, determining why the 13 year old does not want to visit with you. It may be that the result would be a change in the placement order. I would be happy to explore the matter with you in complete detail. Call me at 920-451-6100.