Inter-family squabbles and dischord make for the most difficult and often unsuccessful defamation lawsuits to prosecute, and are still expensive to pursue. Statements made in the form of opinions, as compared to statements of fact only are not actionable, although arguably you present both types [calling you a drunk = opinion; saying you stole = fact]. It would seem that you should have your husband speak with his mother to bring this bickering to an end. You can also try to hire an attorney to send your mother a Cease and Desist letter, in the hopes that will reign ner in without the need for further consideration about a lawsuit - where all the "dirty laundry" will be aired.
You're not going to improve your family life by bringing a lawsuit.
I suggest you consider meeting with a family therapist to assist you in coping with this difficult situation and get pointers on how to deal with this difficult and untruthful woman.
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