I have been split from my 2 sons father for 10 years now. He has always had more important things to do than see his boys, but I always said yes when he asked. In the past year, he moved over 300 miles a way to be with a girl. All of a sudden he thinks he should get them on every single school holiday to where I only have them while they are in school. I offered him to have the boys a month during the summer and he is telling me he is not bringing them back after that month and that if I wanted them back after the month is up that I would have to come get them myself. He is rude, hateful, does nothing but cuss me out and degrade me, which is the reason we split up 10 years ago. And sometimes he got physical. He makes threats that the boys will be living with him before long, and that is because he talks about that to them which is wrong. He still to this day puts me in tears because of the way he talks to me. Can you please help me
Were you married and divorced from the father? If not, has he established legitimacy by court order? If no is the response to both of those questions he has no parental rights at all and you do not have to send the kids to see him. Is he paying child support? Is there a child support order in place? If no to both of those questions, then you need to seek a child support order, which does not give him any parental rights.
First you should speak with a lawyer so it can be determined the rights of the parties involved. Then during that consultation a strategy can be planed and implemented. It is very important to speak with an attorney as the Father may be setting you up so he can seek custody of the children. Please consult with a lawyer as this may save you time, effort and money. I offer free telephone consultations at 770-563-0005
I agree with Mr. Hopkins. It is impossible to give you an opinion since there is no indication whether you were married or not or whether there is even a court order in place that establishes any parenting rights with regard to either of you. If you were never married and there is no order, then you are under no obligation to let him see the children. If there was an order, then it needs to be modified given the change of circumstances. In either event it is worth your while to speak to an attorney regarding this.
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