My father died back in 2014 and my mother kinda stopped functioning as a person and became an alcoholic and took years to take me to get my survivor benefits then spent all of them on booze, weed, cigarettes, and crap for herself she said she would pay me back one day but she pretty much only has the house left and I'm afraid that the way things are going she is going to drink that down the tubes as well. I know she's not well mentally so it's not her fault but need some kind of recourse so that if she wants to continue to destroy her life she doesn't ruin mine in the process. She's allowed the house to fall into disrepair and won't allow us to bring in professionals to fix it for some reason, and now she's more or less abandoned the house all together and has been living in wyoming for 4 months.
One option you have is to convince her to get a power of attorney. A financial power of attorney would allow her to name a representative to step in and make financial decisions like paying the mortgage/taxes/repairs on the property. She would have to agree to a power of attorney, sign off on it, and she has the power to name who she wants to be her power of attorney.
The other option is to seek guardianship. If your mother truly can't function, and not just being eccentric or making poor judgments. If she has a physical or mental disease or disability, or otherwise lack an ability to manage their own affairs, which makes them unable to make sound decisions, then you can go to the courts and have you appointed as their guardian. This requires a court process and can be emotionally draining on a family, so it is not a step I would take lightly. I would also seek legal counsel if that is the road you wish to go down.
This article is meant as general knowledge and not meant to substitute for legal advice on specific issues. I’m only licensed in NC and this is only general advice. This does not create an attorney-client relationship until a retainer or representation agreement has been signed.
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