seems like you can ask for all. not sure what your husband does. not telling me the history of the relationship financially--go out to eat, live a high life style, vacations. I suggest that you see a lawyer and find all of your rights. let me pause here and be fully candid. we get these questions and rarely is ALL the information that we need actually given. so, anything said is with a grain of salt, it depends on all of the facts. that is why I suggest you contact an attorney as soon as you can so that you and the attorney can converse and attorney can ask you the questions needed to be asked and you can answer them. only then, can you get really good answers and advice.
You would be entitled to temporary spousal support, and possibly permanent spousal support. You would be entitled to child support for the children under age 18 and still in secondary school. You could request use of the family home and use of a vehicle. You can file for divorce without claiming any type of fault. Debts and assets would be divided at the time of the settlement of community property which would occur after the divorce unless some resolution was reached earlier.
Every situation is different and you should consult your own attorney to go over all the particular facts in your case. The answer given is only intended to provide general guidance regarding rights and responsibilities.
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