You do not have rights but your husband does have the right to file a motion to stop the ex's behavior, stating it is not in child's best interest.
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Your husband could also file a motion asking the court to grant you permission to be there given your overall presence in the child's life. Unfortunately this appears to be a case where emotion is trumping coin sense on the part of his ex.
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I have nothing more to add than what the other two lawyers said. Only your husband has standing and he would probably need to go to court and file a motion. I don't think that a judge would be hard pressed to find a reason not to grant it given what you described.
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It doesn't sound like YOU'RE the loco parentis in this case... (that's a joke for Spanish speaking folks).
Anyway - yes, your husband can delegate to your the authority to see the kids, take them to medical appointments, go to their schools, etc. You can't get a restraining order against mom since it doesn't sound like you two had a family relationship, but you (or, technically, your husband) certainly could file a motion and get it before a judge so as to calm her down.
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