Very sorry for your loss.
Verbal statements unfortunately are not considered in the probate process.
Assuming your step father was your Mother's second husband he will first be entitled to an Annual Allowance and then approximately 1/6 of the estate under a pretty complicated formula in the North Carolina General Statutes.
Given the personal dynamics between you and your step-father, it may help to retain local counsel to try and negotiate with him and remove the emotional issues from the equation.
Unfortunately, since your mom did not leave a will, your step dad does not have to honor her wishes. The estate needs to be probated. The step dad inherits half the estate and you and your siblings, if any, inherit the other half. Consult with a probate attorney as soon as you are able. Best wishes.
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Verbal statements are meaningless in probate matters. A written Will is required. In the absence of a Will, you are definitely not the only heir. Your step-father would be an heir as well, and a favored heir, in most states. It is likely that he is entitled to exemptions and allowances. He is also entitled to any assets that were jointly held and/or where he was designated as the beneficiary. Personal items are particularly tough, because he can claim that those were jointly owned and not your mother's. Your best bet is to contact an attorney to help you determine the facts of the situation and how best for you to proceed.
Your mother did you a big disservice by failing to properly plan her estate.
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