That is one of the longest sentences I have ever read. We cannot help you here online. This is a simple Q&A forum and is not set up to provide legal representation . You need to get yourself to a lawyer and the sooner you go the better. If you have no money, you might be able to speak to a legal aid lawyer, or perhaps you can get a lawyer who file file a motion for prospective attorney's fees.
You have plenty of rights, one small problem, and two big problems:
Your rights: You've got a very strong case for 1) custody, 2) child support, 3) maintenance (alimony) and you can expect an award of AT LEAST 50% of the property and lifetime maintenance payments -- probably at least 50% of husband's income to start.
Small problem: it seems like English is not your native language. Don't worry about it -- you'll do just fine in court and working with a lawyer.
Big Problem #1: Your in an abusive relationship. Whenever I hear a wife say "I don't knwo what to do . . . ." (as you did) it serves as a red flag that this is an abusive relationship. Other telltales: he made and handled all the money, he wouldn't allow you to drive, he wanted you to quit your job . . . and you did, he wanted you to stay home as a housewife. . . and you did, and you say "I did whatever he says." NO matter how you slice it, this is an abusive relationship.
The biggest problem, here, is that you almost certainly won't be able to make a decision to help yourself and protect your kids if that decision would possibly upset your husband. THrough years of abuse, you seem to have landed in a place where your primary concern is keeping your husband happy . . . even to the exclusion of protecting your own self-interest and the well-being of your children.
A psychiatrist put it this way: "If you take guy off the street and tell him to march into gunfire, he'll scream "NO!" and run the other way. If you take that same guy and put him through three months of abuse (boot camp) and then tell him to march into gunfire, he'll say "Yes, sir!" and he'll go march into the fight.
The difference is the abuse. It gets that person to stop thinking in rational ways (done in the pre-frontal cortex) and to suppress those instincts of self-interest. Instead, that guy's amygdala (fight or flight) takes over and he thinks: "I must obey my commander." So, he says "Yes, sir!" and gets up and goes.
That's where you are, now. Except, in your case, you've not been through three months of abuse -- you've been through 16 years.
So, job 1 for you is to get into some therapy and get to a point where you can make and act on some decisions that will surely upset your husband.
Big Problem #2: You don't have any money. Justice ain't cheap. You'll need a lawyer -- and a good one, at that. Talk with friends, family, clergy, support groups, etc. Talk with your therapist about what options you might have. You'll need resources.
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