If you documented your complaints in writing you MIGHT have grounds to recover some rent money you already paid--but it depends on what needed to be fixed. You do have a right to quiet enjoyment of yoru property and if you can document unreasonable disruption of which your landlord is aware, and she takes no action you MAY be able to terminate the lease.
There is no such thing as landlord-tenant confidentiality and it does not violate any law I am aware of for a property manager to discuss a tenant with staff.
Recommend you contact a FT Smith area landlord tenant attorney and review all your facts and circumstances to determine (1) what you can to do make the situation better (2) what legal options you MIGHT have. I wish you all the best.
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