Lots of questions there, but the answer is really simple – the court will allow them to see your kids if the court believes it is in their best interest. The kids don't get a vote, and you don't get a veto.
If you defy a court order, you could be held in contempt, and contempt of a custody order is now a criminal contempt.
You really need to consult with a lawyer. If you just ignore the court's order, you may be held in contempt of court and you could be fined, put in jail, and/or both. You must obey an order of the court regardless of whether you think it is fair or not.
However, it should be noted that you can modify a custody order. Your best bet is to consult with a lawyer to discuss the likelyhood of getting the order modified, but in the meantime, you will need to follow the order or face the possibility of being held in contempt.
Justin C. Gearty Jr., Esquire
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