Child custody arrangements are far less a matter of mother's or father's rights than they are a matter of CHILDREN'S rights. A child has the absolute right to grow up knowing and enjoying the comfort, support, and guidance of BOTH parents, subject of course to what protections may be appropriate to protect the health and safety of the child. Past behavior is only a small part of the many factors a judge must take into account, and efforts by one parent to prevent contact by the other are often disfavored and raises suspicious about the judgment of that parent. An effort to paint this father as a child molester after allowing contact could easily backfire. Moreover, children have their own acute sense of fairness and as they grow older can become resentful of the interfering parent. If these concepts seem foreign to you, counseling for you may be helpful. Also, the assistance of an experienced and particularly adept family law practitioner who can help coach you in these matters may help.
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