My son's father first disowned my son when i told him i was pregnant now the child is here and a DNA test has been done and now he wants joint custody for some reason? Another thing is now he has a partner and she has claimed that i have done some vandalism and has threaten and said im a unfit mother and they will be taking my son away and the whole situation i don't know if it was a stunt to make me look bad or what but it was a lie because i don't know anything about this female but the simple fact that she's dating my sons father and now the father is saying i cant tell him what he can do with his son and i don't want my son around that female because of what she has said that i have done calling me a unfit mother and said that i vandalized her vehicle?
I would hire an attorney to represent you. For the most part, judges will not give extensive custody of a child to a parent who has little relationship with that child. That said, lots of factors go into determining custody, and it is not impossible to have him get some sort of custodial arrangement. You want the attorney to assist you to make sure that the judge focuses on your fitness and the father's lack of relationship with the child to ensure that he does not get joint custody.
You can do it on your own if you must, but with something this important, I would suggest getting an attorney.
First, joint custody by itself so not as horrible as you may think. If all he wants is to be the Joint LEGAL custodian and NOT physical, then he is not trying to take your child away. I have no doubt that his new girlfriend is likely a strong influence. So you need to an family law attorney as soon as possible to properly represent yourself.
If he does want visitation, the Court will always encourage visitation but based on the best interests of the child. Probably starting slow would be best to re-acquaint the child and keeping the new girlfriend out of the picture. Again please see a family attorney like himself to help you through the process
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