There is lot riding on this. In truth using the skills of an attorney in the singe best way to save money in the long run.
Hire an attorney now. Later, you will find out just how much money you lost out because you tried to go it alone
I say this from long experience
Your boyfriend really should hire an attorney to assist. There is a great deal at stake when child support is litigated, especially if he paid voluntarily without a court order as this could be construed as gifts rather than support if he is not represented by experienced counsel. While you are in court, make sure there is a parenting agreement put into place, as well as a visitation schedule. Hire a lawyer to get this done the best way possible. There are many great lawyers in your area. If you don't know any, click on the Find a Lawyer link at the top of this page. Consult with several and hire the one you like the best. Keep in mid that this is your boyfriend's case, and not yours. You are not a party to this action despite your personal involvement. Best wishes to all.
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These facts are sketchy. Why isn't he going for custody? I think you need to consult and hire a family law attorney fast. Do not go to a hearing without a lawyer. It could be a terrible mistake. Driving 1400 miles is a lot. If she is with you guys for long periods of time there must be facts to reflect the reasons. Lawyer up!
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