You should consult with an attorney. The NC Bar Association offers a free referral service and will refer you to a local attorney for only $30.
Generally, if she is a fit and proper person, the judge will decide what is in the best interests of the child. Even if she gets custody, you can be granted visitation. But you need to file a custody complaint to get a court order on custody and visitation. And you can't do this generally until you separate from her.
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