I traveled out of the US with advance parole in August for health check up. During the course of one of many arguments, I found out through a watsapp message my husband sent to me with threats that he has sold his house and moved ALL my personal belongings and our minor child’s belongings to a storage.
In one of the messages he sent to me, he threatened to destroy everything between us 100 percent-bearing in mind there has been a history of abuse (recorded) in the past, also Temporary protection order against him for a month, because of the abuse but I forgave him , and thought it would work. History of abandonments from him. I always go back because of no self confidence and fear, threats etc.
I have not filed for a divorce because I’m out of the country till October, ( I intend to) as far as I’m concerned I don’t know if he has filed for one. I am not working at the moment, I will obviously be homeless with a four year old child when I get back to the US because I have no forwarding address for him.
I am scared, depressed, very sad. No money, no job yet abandoned with a minor. Did he have any right to without my consent? What are my rights going forward please?
If no divorce has been filed, there is nothing in place to keep him from selling property, moving, moving things into storage, etc. Once a divorce is filed, there is a standing order in place that keeps some of those things from happening. You can check with the clerk in the superior court of the county where you lived to see if a divorce has been filed. You also should talk to an attorney as soon as possible to see what you need to do about filing (or responding if it has already been filed) and getting a temporary hearing so child support and possibly other support can be ordered.
Sorry to hear this happened to you. That said, if he sold his house (presuming it was just his house), and put your things in a storage unit, then he probably did you a favor. At least everything will be there when you get back.
If resources are an issue, you can file for child support through the local child support services office. They will need an address to serve him though. You may want to contact a private investigator about that. At the very least, this would provide you with some income until you are ready to file for divorce.
Schedule an appointment to speak with an attorney to discuss your options with respect to the divorce. I know I've done international consultations before, so, I'm sure other attorneys do.
Good luck to you.
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