In VA the legal age of consent is 18; therefore you are in violation of the law. It is not a question of whether her parents consent but whether she has the capacity to do so and legally speaking she does not. You must break off the relationship or be in continued danger of facing serious criminal charges. BTW, in many states age differential may make for a more serious crime. In your case it is 5 years so you have that to be concerned about as well. See a VA lawyer.