You can't afford not to retain experienced legal counsel to represent you through this. There are many issues raised in your post and the court will listen if they are properly framed and presented. The answer to the question as to the "value" of an M.D. degree truly depends on so many individual circumstances that an answer in this format is not even possible.
I do wish you the best.
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You really need to consult with a divorce attorney - especially if she has filed for divorce. Once you have been served you have 35 days to respond. Some of your issues are not clear but one thing is that if she is remarrying the only support she can get from you is child support - and that is based solely upon the income of both parents - additionally you do not have to give up on your children. But you cannot deal with this through an email service - you must see an attorney now.
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It depends on what rulings a judge issued however the value of an advanced degree is not considered in NJ.
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