While it is possible not to cooperate, be very careful if you decide to drop the charges, you do not want to be charged with filing a false report. I suggest you contact a local dv attorney/family with criminal experience, to discuss your options. Best of luck.
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Yoy can speak with the District Attorney who is prosecuting your husband. The DAs do not like to drop these charges because they don't want to be responsible. You should sit down with an attorney to discuss how the process works.
This response does not creat an attorney client relationship. In all cases, I recommend you seek a paid consultation with an attorney with expertise in this area.