I have 50/50 legal custody of my daughter. My ex-wife has been bringing her to a therapist, on my insurance plan, who refuses to communicate with me. The therapist spends half the session with my ex-wife, and only half with my daughter. I have called several times and left messages to discuss payment of anything that is not covered, discuss my daughter's sessions (or what she can legally tell me) and to ask why she is spending this amount of time with my ex-wife, but never confers with me about our daughter. The therapist never calls back, and the only contact I have with her is when she sends me bills. What can I do to ensure that I get clear communication with this care-provider? Obviously, my calls have been ignored, probably with prompting from my ex.
I am curious as to whether there an authorization needs to be executed before the Therapist will speak with you. There must be an underlying reason. Best of luck
This would be extremely concerning to me. It makes me wonder how your relationship is with your ex and your child, whether you believe this therapy was important in the first place for the child, and whether you believe that her issues(s) are improving with the therapy. When you have joint legal custody of a child, there is supposed to be a discussion and consensus between parents on major issues involving the children. Such issues generally include the child's health, including mental health, and general welfare. When therapy is considered - joint legal custody requires that the parents discuss the issue in advance. At that point, before a therapist is selected, both parents usually speak with and review the qualifications of possible therapists, and while they are discussing their concerns about the child's condition.
Also, many agreements regarding child custody provides that both parents are entitled to doctor's reports and all mediation information. If this is in your agreement, you need to provide it to the doctor's office.
This could be a precarious situation, depending on what's going on. I strongly recommend you schedule a consultation with a qualified family law attorney to discuss these issues and to determine appropriate action.
The therapist may be operating under instructions from your ex-wife not to communicate with you regarding anything except the bills. I would suggest a letter to the therapist from a lawyer on your behalf, enclosing the Court Order that gives you joint legal custody of the child and demanding that the therapist provide you with any and all written documents he has prepared regarding the child and that the therapist communicates verbally with you as well. I would also have your lawyer send a letter to your ex reminding her that you and she share joint legal custody, and therefore your ex should advise the therapist to send you all documents and verbally communicate with you. This way, if that does not work, and you have to have a Motion filed, you will have these letters as exhibits to your Motion to prove to the Judge what is going on. Good luck to you.
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