I was in a committed relationship with an American girl. We lived in a 3rd country for over a year. She was abusive and kept up with other men when we were apart.
I broke up with her months ago but (from what she has said and I have heard) she is defaming me by saying that I 'used her' (I am not sure about what her claim is) and since I am not an American and not in the US, I 'feel like' the US court will just give her what she wants since I won't even be notified about whats going on.
I have recordings in which she is threatening to 'Kill me', 'ruin me', 'behead me', 'kill and crush my descendants' and chop my male organ off. I have photos and videos of the injuries she inflicted on me, cuts and bruises. She was very abusive both physically and verbally. She also expressed her desire to set my ex's house on fire which I have recordings for and one time, I had to stop her physically because 'she was just going to do it'.
What should I do here? Do I file a court order against her? If yes, then should I do this in the US or my home country or my country of residence? Should I get a restraining order against her? I don't want to hurt or bother her but I want to defend.
See an attorney, soon, as there are strict deadlines within which you must bring a claim. The longer you wait, the greater the chances of you losing any claim you might have. That being said, going after your ex will likely not be inexpensive, irrespective of whether you win.
From the sparse facts you provided here, it sounds like there might be an intentional tort claim for the physical abuse, but there are far too many moving parts to this question. That is why you must see an attorney. First, to go over whether (and where) you might have a claim, and second, to provide sober perspective regarding what you might be able to expect if you win.
As to the defamation, perhaps you have more or, in discussing it with an attorney, you might remember other key details, but nothing about an ex saying she felt "used" sounds like actionable defamation. Again, only an in-depth conversation with an attorney would produce the factual picture required to provide reliable, professional legal advice.
The same goes to the restraining order. I am curious as to what purpose a restraining order against a person apparently within the USA might serve for a person living outside of the USA, but I suppose that there might be a situation where such measures would be appropriate. As such, again, talk to an attorney.
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