Defamation is an unprivileged false statement of fact that a reasonable person would believe is true. "Unprivileged" means it was not done during a report to a government body, law enforcement, during litigation etc (areas of the law immune from defamation). "Reasonable person would believe to be true" means it is not satire or so outlandish that a reasonable person would know it's a joke (or shows like Saturday Night Live can not exist). So now we come to the "false statement of fact" part. Opinions are not actionable. Also, dissemination to a third party is necessary--slander is spoken defamation and libel is written defamation. So you'd need to have proof that she did in fact make a false statement of fact to a third party. Truth is a defense. So if you sue her for defamation, then she has a right to delve into your life and personal affairs to prove the truth of what she said. Putting something wrong on a calendar is not defamation. As to other conduct that you said she would "spin" without more detail, it is not possible to assess. But you can see if they meet the definitions I laid out above.
Under common law, to constitute defamation, a claim must generally be false and have been made to someone other than the person defamed.Generally spoken defamation, is called slander, and defamation in other media such as printed words or images, is called libel.
You stated the actions have caused damage to your reputation therefore you should consult a local Oregon attorney who is familiar with libel and slander claims as well as workers compensation remedies. In some jurisdictions your exclusive remedy is workers compensation because this involves a co-employee.
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Know that defamation lawyers typically want a $5,000.00 fee up front, so unless you've sustained a significant monetary loss, the costs could exceed the recovery.
Keep in mind that to successfully recover, you need to show how you suffered monetary losses as a result of the alleged defamation. This would be money you paid, or income you lost, because of the defamation.
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