Because the father has been out of the child's life the Judge is likely to find that he has abandoned any interest in the child. Each State has their own standards for establishing "abandonment". You can try to obtain his consent but that may not work for you. I would certainly suggest that you contact a local attorney to help guide you through the system. Best of luck to you.
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