It sounds to me like a collaborative divorce would be a good idea . . . for HIM. Your relationship sounds abusive -- it sounds like there is a real power imbalance, here, and that would mean that the collaborative divorce process would probably benefit him and hurt you.
Your better strategy would be to work with an experienced family law attorney.
The alleged diagnoses will probably amount to nothing. If the mental health of the parties becomes an issue, the law allows attorneys and the court to get to the bottom of things -- it's really nothing to be concerned about, at this point.
It seems like joint custody wouldn't likely work, here; and that a court would be unlikely to order it.
Bottom line, to answer your question: forget collaborative divorce and hire a lawyer.
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collaborative may work if you have a strong attorney. if not, or if your husband insists his way is the only way, it probably will not work.
Simply stated. No. In his mind, you are the problem. He's a bully and it will be an exercise in futility that will lead no where good. His demands are unreasonable as to custody/visitation. At least he has revealed to you his plans--no surprise tactics here. Forget the collaborative divorce, hire a very experienced divorce attorney who has had cases against his attorney and don't back down from what you and the kids need and deserve. .
Since your husband is not willing to collaborate about anything, neither a collaborative nor a mediated divorce is realistic. It takes 2 highly cooperative people, neither of whom is driven by suspicion or hostility.
The only reason your husband states he wants a collaborative divorce is because he has so much at stake [assets+alimony+child support...etc]
I recommend you bypass spending marital funds on collaborative lawyers until your husband's actions start matching his words.
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